Regarding advice on marriage...

Obviously since it became public knowledge that nuptials were in my near future. People have felt obligated to give me all sorts of advice. Some solicited - mostly not. That's okay I guess - when its done in the right spirit.

But all too often I get the random negativity and well - it annoys me. For example - I am at the bank today - making a (ahem) LARGE deposit into our wedding account and that spurs the "Awwww how sweet" comments from the bank tellers (all women of course). They offer their congrats and I am on my way right? Nope. I don't get 2 steps and I get another comment out of the blue - "Don't do it". Again - no biggie - that's not the first time I heard that. But when I turned to look who said it - you should have seen the fear in this mans eyes!


You know all good advice is great - until you take it. You know why - because then its not advice anymore. Its your decision or road to live or die with. But that's just it - its PERSONAL to YOU. Just because something doesn't work for YOU doesn't mean it won't work for anyone else. Stop throwing your fears onto other people.

Don't get me wrong - I am no fool. I know the statistics. I know the cultural issues, I KNOW THIS IS NOT GOING TO BE EASY. I get that. But its not impossible - in fact its far from impossible. I believe that in my heart. Thats part of the solution -on how I make this work. If I go in with doubts - WHAT KIND OF PLAN IS THAT? I'll tell you.. a dumb one.

It's cool to say "be careful", "communicate", "never go to bed angry", etc., etc.. But to be flat out "don't do it"? That super wack - and cowardly if you ask me. Like if marriage is not CURRENTLY working out for you - Do something about it! But don't expect it to be some full fledged curse against human race. If marriage didn't work for you in the past - ok fine - time to move on. Let's not project the negative spirit that killed that relationship into another one. Give me all the things to look out for - but don't fear me into some corner. Alright!?!

I AM ABOUT TO DO THIS!!! AND BE GOOD AT IT IF I SAY SO MYSELF and if you aren't with that here is a little advice.